Women Dating Tips and Advice

One of the main reasons why women decide that they want to be friends after all of this is that they don’t want to lose some connection - just in case she’s wrong about men! This is incredible, but true. She wants to go out and see if she can find some other guy that will actually pass her Tests. If she does, (and there are some of us out here), she will still be close enough to “rub your nose in it”. This whole “being fair about it” is a classic symptom and the best evidence that what I’m saying is true.

You should not be friends with her. First, she feels safe expecting this of you as though she is the bigger person. Of course, she has nothing to lose! You on the other hand have your self-respect and dignity, your emotional well being, etc. There is absolutely no risk to her in expecting this of you! Further, if she doesn’t find that “Prince Charming”, she can always fall back to you! Does all this piss you off? Good! It should!

What you should do? First, if you really want to understand The Test and be ready to pass the next one, (and believe me if not her, someone else will Test you), pick up your dating book and commit it to memory. Second, DO NOT accept being her friend. In fact, I’d go so far as to be insulted that she thinks that she can keep you on that lead! If she wants a pet, tell her to go to the pound.

Lastly, only you know if there is even the most remote chance of being with her again. If so, stop all contact with her right now. She’s going to need some time on her own - alone - to remember what a great guy you are. Second, when she does call, you need to be out and having a great time. This is where you want to get your buddies to give you a hand. Have them help you get out and start meeting other women. If you’ve taken care of your friendships, they will be there for you - and will understand what you’re going through. Especially, don’t answer the phone on weekends. Your friends and family will understand if you don’t pick up and have to call them back.

Then, when she does call, be ready to pass her next test!